This task is challenging because it is hard to see the actual issue behind it. It might be because of its wordiness. But if you look closely, you can see two somewhat illogical perspectives.  

The first one says parents must make all the decisions for their children – every single one of them. Why? The answer is fear. When children decide what to eat, do, wear, or watch, they develop a dangerous mindset that the world is like a restaurant and everyone is their waitstaff ready to serve them. They grow up believing that whatever they want goes, and that is how society will be filled with selfish members.  

The second view is also rooted in fear. In this world, we must learn to voice our choices and shape our lives; otherwise, we become victims of others’ expectations or excellent people-pleasers. Those who cannot decide will have to live the lives others choose for them. Just imagine teenagers whose parents decide what college they should attend or whom they should date. These teenagers do as they are told to keep their parents happy.  

Honestly, both views must be revised to help children become functional adults. The first view produces indecisive people-pleasers, and the second generates self-centered monsters. Perhaps we should aim for a middle ground. Children should be allowed to make decisions about some parts of their daily lives, and parents should control other choices. In this way, children will learn two lessons: how to make a choice and how to respond to others’ expectations, thus living on equal footing as others when they grow up. 

I hope this post has been useful.